The Good Girl's Guide to
Healing From Religious Harm
a 4 week self-led course
Hey, Good Girl!
Did high demand religion train you to:
Not trust yourself because you're sinful
Abandon yourself so much you are lost
Seek perfection to your own detriment
Put others ahead of yourself, always
You are not alone!
It makes sense why you don't know who you are now.
These are the collective starting points we hear daily from all of our clients:
"There was so much inward hatred and disconnect from what I felt and what I knew [after I left high demand religion]." -Roxanne
"[Leaving high demand religion] left me completely overcome with big emotions to the point of not being able to function." -Bekah
"I navigated life with an overwhelming sense of disconnect... because I was never able to explore ME." -Emily
"I had no idea who I was (after leaving) or who I wanted to be - and no way to figure it out. I felt stalled and overwhelmed." -Jaime
We've been there, too.
Hi! We're Cara + Rachael
We have been M.A. certified coaches for 17 years, specializing in faith transitions. We have worked 1,000s of hours extensively coaching women who were programmed to be “good girls” in religious environments and have taught them the tools to recover from their religious harm.
We can help you too!
But this in not where we started. Both of us were former pastors in the Evangelical church for a decade. We left everything behind many years ago in our late 20s, one of the most difficult experiences of our lives. We navigated those deconstruction waters alone and always wished there had been resources to help.
That's why we created:
After years of working with 100s of women, our coaching business was maxed out. We had long waiting lists and felt frustrated we couldn't help more women. The light bulb turned on one day when we realized:
We could condense months of coaching into ONE course for a lower cost!
So we took the universal themes we were seeing in our clients and created this course to help all the religious good girls out there who just left religion and are struggling with answering the questions: Who am I now? Will I ever feel free again? How can I get unstuck?
This course is more than just healing religious harm.
Stopping the self-blame cycle that says YOU are the problem
Taking back your personal power that religion stole from you
Living from your most authentic, meet-your-own-needs self
Empowering yourself by learning to actually trust yourself
WHAT THEY NOW SAY:
"Y'all have made such an impact on my life! Would not be as free as I am today if it weren't for your work. The journey is so much lighter and it's a different world to where I was a year ago. I have both of you to thank for that!" - Roxanne
"I really can’t express how much these tools have been helping me. I feel like I can cope in a way I’ve never been able to before. So grateful to you, Cara + Rachael. It has seriously changed my life!" -Bekah
"I am so thankful for [your work]; it has seriously changed my life! Even in my wildest dreams I couldn't have imagined the change & growth I've experienced. Thank you so much for your work!" -Emily
"Because of you both, I learned how to ask questions and to learn to listen to myself. You two taught me to dig deeper, be curious and kind to myself. I now know who I am because of it." -Jaime
"[Being a part of HWU] was the most impactful decision of my year. I was able to give myself permission to just BE, as is, each day--rather than wait to for a more perfect version of me to feel worth or good enough. I recommend this for anyone seeking support, rest, and joy in their religious recovery journey." -Brook
"I was so impressed with this course (Happy Whole U) and so deeply grateful for all the work that went into creating the program. I learned so much and felt seen. I will use the tools I learned from the class for the rest of my life. This is such a special space and I'm really thankful to have been a part of it." -Beth
"I am much more aware of my triggers and their origin, which has been really helpful in learning how to communicate that in my marriage and in parenting. I have much more grace for myself and no longer see myself as broken but rather, just human." -Lynette
This is for you if:
This is NOT for you if:
Peek Inside The Good Girl's Guide's
SECTION 1. The Problem
- Religion taught you a "good girl" cycle (and learn how to break free from it)
- Discover how perfectionistic standards for yourself are actually a defense mechanism
- Find out why the never-ending self improvement journey is NOT the solution.
Section 2: The Good vs Bad Lens
- Understand how the hamster wheel of healing is actually a trap for those who come from high demand religion
- Learn a proven strategy to help you quickly spot when you're getting sucked into the Good Girl cycle and practical exercises to shift out of it for good
- Discover an alternative way to relate to the aspects of yourself that you dislike that WILL blow your head out of the water!
Section 3: All about Needs
- Find out how taking your power back doesn't mean completely throwing away your religious past (HINT: You can use it to uncover the path forward).
- Learn how your needs are at the bottom of ALL OF THIS and how to work through them to get to the other side
- Get clear direction for how to 'listen within' to discover your core needs and the tools to finally meet them
- Discover a more effective way to handle "self sabotaging" behaviors
Section 4: Defining my Values Now
- Learn how to create a beautiful life full of value, purpose, and forward motion without the structure of religion.
- Follow a simple step-by-step process to get clarity around what your passions, strengths and values are now that you aren't being told what they 'should' be
- Discover practical ways to structure your life around the things that are important to you.
HOW IT WORKS:
Video Curriculum Lessons
This course is completely online and can be taken from anywhere in the world. The core content is made up of 4 Sections. Each video lesson contains detailed slides with lots of content. Ideally you would spend one week on each section, watching the videos and giving yourself ample time to ponder the content and engage with the exercises. The course was designed to take roughly one month to complete on your own.
Contained within the curriculum are 30+ worksheets that go along with the teaching, and will help you directly apply the material you're learning to your own life. You will be able to print them off to do over and over as many times as you want over the years as your circumstances change, because you will have LIFETIME ACCESS! Any time we add new worksheets they will be available to you!
Once you purchase "Good Girls Guide to Healing From Religious Harm" you will have lifetime access to the material. Every time we add worksheets, update our video lessons, or add new resources to the resource guide, you will have instant access for years to come!
We get asked often for resources on a huge variety of topics: parenting, trauma, sexuality, overcoming purity culture, navigating relationships, boundaries, etc.
Inside the curriculum we have an entire library of resources at your disposal that will continually evolve as we find more things to add to it. You have lifetime access to this huge list so you can find help as new issues arise.